For a home to truly reflect God’s nature, it must be built on His precepts—with God as the beginning, the center, and the end of everything that concerns the household. In a godly home, every member—husband, wife, and children—should be shaped by the character of God. The fruit of the Spirit should be visible: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). In addition to these, virtues like unity, trust, respect, integrity, and responsibility will thrive.
A Godly Marriage: Built on the Foundation of Faith
Scripture makes it clear that a godly marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman who are both believers—followers of Christ who desire to please God above all. These individuals have chosen to surrender their personal desires to God’s will and allow His direction to lead every step, even in the journey to choosing a life partner.
Long before the wedding, their relationship must honour God—avoiding casual dating and waiting patiently on God’s leading. When God has confirmed the right person, they should continue to honour Him by remaining pure and abstaining from sexual intimacy before marriage. This obedience not only strengthens their relationship with God but also lays a strong moral and spiritual foundation for their union.
However, some may already find themselves unequally yoked, married to an unbeliever. The Bible addresses this in 1 Corinthians 7:12-16, encouraging such individuals to remain in the marriage and live in a Christlike way, trusting that their godly conduct might lead their spouse to salvation. And if separation or divorce occurs, especially where peace is unattainable, the believer is not bound by guilt—it is not a sin. How beautiful and heart-saving it is to know and follow God’s way from the beginning!
Biblical Roles: The Blueprint for Marital Harmony
Ephesians 5:21–33 outlines God’s instruction for married couples. If every Christian home applied these simple yet profound truths, our marriages would not only thrive—they would radiate God’s glory.
- To the husband: Love your wife as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her. This love is sacrificial, not just emotional. It means giving up personal comfort and convenience, setting aside selfish preferences to care deeply for your wife’s needs.
- To the wife: Submit to your husband as unto the Lord. This submission is not slavery or silence; it is respect, honor, and alignment with his God-given leadership. It is wisdom to assess the man you intend to marry and ask: Has he truly submitted to God? Can I willingly follow his leadership knowing he is led by Christ?
Marriage is not a casual affair; it’s a divine assignment. Choosing the right partner should be prayerful and purposeful. If both husband and wife abide by these biblical principles, the home will indeed flourish.
Living Intentionally: Godly Character in Daily Life
Being a Christian doesn’t automatically make your home godly. It requires intentionality. Each partner must deliberately strive to develop and express the fruits of the Spirit in their daily interactions.
The first of these fruits is love, and 1 Corinthians 13:4–8 gives us a clear picture of what love in marriage looks like:
- Love is patient and kind.
- It is not envious or boastful.
- It is not arrogant or rude.
- It does not insist on its own way.
- It is not irritable or resentful.
- It does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
- Love bears, believes, hopes, and endures all things.
When both partners choose to love each other with this kind of selfless, Christ-centered love, their relationship deepens and becomes more resilient. And while love requires enduring challenges, this is within the context of mutual godliness. This does not imply tolerating abuse or ungodliness from a partner. A godly home cannot be built where there is constant danger or oppression.
When we choose to walk in the Spirit, we will naturally exhibit kindness, gentleness, self-control, and faithfulness. This builds trust and harmony in the home, allowing both partners to raise godly children together.
Raising Godly Children: Beyond Devotions and Church Attendance
It is not enough to take your children to church or squeeze in short devotions. While those things matter, true discipleship happens through deep, meaningful conversations about God’s ways—explaining the “why” behind what we believe, not just the “what.”
Avoid shutting down your children’s questions with “because the Bible says so.” Instead, walk with them through Scripture, invite them into honest discussions, and teach them to reason with the Word of God. As they understand and internalize these truths, they are less likely to be swayed by peer pressure or cultural deception.
Raise them with the mindset that faith is not just tradition—it is truth. Be intentional in cultivating a spiritually rich environment where they see authentic faith lived out daily.
God’s Original Design for the Home: Fruitfulness and Dominion
From the beginning, God established the home as the foundation of His creation. In Genesis 1:28–30, He blessed Adam and Eve and commanded them to be fruitful, multiply, and rule over the earth. Fruitfulness is not only about having children—it is about purpose, legacy, and stewardship.
Sadly, in today’s culture, the enemy has launched a full-scale attack on this design. Abortion is framed as empowerment, and procreation is discouraged under the guise of sustainability. But God’s Word remains true—He calls us to multiply and to dominate, not shrink back in fear.
We were created to reign—over the sea, sky, and land—not cower before creation or spiritual forces. The home is where dominion begins. If Satan can disrupt the home, he can corrupt society. That’s why the enemy works so hard to destroy families.
Let’s Return to God’s Blueprint
Dear Christian, it’s time to return to God’s original plan for the home. Let us cast off the counterfeit structures of the world and embrace biblical truth in every area of family life. Dive deep into the Word, not just for knowledge, but for transformation.
At Universal Scroll, we are committed to unveiling and explaining biblical truths so every believer can walk in God’s perfect will. Our simple guiding principle is:
“If it is in the Bible, we want it. If it is not in the Bible, we don’t want it.”
Let the Word of God be your blueprint. Build your home on the Rock that never fails.
